Tetsuya is a high school student struggling with the Q label. He is one of the many teens who are quietly questioning their sexual orientation. In case you don't know, this is what one of the Qs stands for in LGBTQIA. Of course, Tetsuya is a fictional character, a figment of West Thornhill's fertile imagination, who's wonderful story has posted today, along with Raiden & Hemp, over at The Raven's Crossing. Today, I blog in his honor, but I also blog for all of the very real people who are questioning.
Questions of sexual orientation can happen for many people at different stages of their lives. For those who begin to question during their teenage years, however, it can be an even more confusing and frightening time. One that can prove to be very dangerous. I know. I was a teen questioning my own sexuality while attending a very small high school in an extremely conservative farming community.
I don't wish this on anyone. In fact, I am adamant that no teens should have to feel alone and afraid to talk to others about their sexuality. It's vitally important that teens have people they can come to, people who are open to their questions and concerns. People who won't hit them with the pat, knee-jerk reaction that they are "too young to know or question these things." Dr. Jeffrey Fishberger of the Trevor Project often reminds adults that they don't react in this manner when teens come home talking about attractions to people of the opposite sex. It is important to take our questioning youth seriously, to treat them fairly and without judgement and bias.
Luckily, for teens today, there are a wide variety of organizations that provide safe places with 24 hour help, places where people of all ages can go to ask important questions and find support. Please, if you find yourself questioning your sexuality, no matter what letter of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, or Ally (LGTBQIA) alphabet you wonder about, don't go through this process alone. You don't need to! You can contact The Trevor Lifeline and Trevorchat or the GLBT National Youth Talkline. Parents, guardians, teachers, friends, you also need to know how to best navigate questions from your teenagers regarding sexuality. Know that you are not alone, either. Please visit PFLAG to get support.
Again, we welcome everyone at The Ravens Crossing. Come join the fun, read about LGBTQIA characters you might identify with, leave comments, meet the staff, find friends, link to resources. But, most importantly, know that there is a huge community of people out in the world who support and love you no matter what questions you have, not matter what answers you find.